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Aug 30, 2011 8:11 PM

This happened a couple of years ago with my husband cheating on me with another woman, It has been a very difficult process from me. I have been married to my husband now going on 12 years. When i found this out i was devestated as most people are. My world fell apart. I held it together though for my kids. But the memories do not go away the hurt, sadness, distrust. I have tryed to go to a group where other women help each other out with this sort of thing that all have been affacted but i could not seem to be comfortable with it. I have read books and they seem to help but not with everything. Not only is this another woman but a relative in our family so it is very hard during the holidays and going to the same church.How do I deal with this situation too? And everything is not peachy with my husband. He has been faithful every since he came forth and told me about it. He did not want to hide it anymore from me. And we did get wisdom from our ministers at our church that help us alot. But i seem to still be dealing with this in my mind. And because of what i am dealing with inside and how i feel sometimes i explode on him and we agrue. Sometimes we agrue over small things nothing to do with the situation. Money, kids ect. I feel like we are growing apart.It seems like my husband has put this all in his past and is trying to move on where for me it is very hard and i need to talk about it. There is so much that needs to be work on in my marriage. I dont want a divorce but i dont want to stay together just for the sake of the kids. Because i know one day the kids will all be grown up and live somewhere else and it will just be me and him. I have forgiven him but i wonder if i forgave him to quickly. Am i holding on to bitterness? I just feel like i am carrying a heavy load and trying to climb my way out. If someone could give me advice i would appreciate it. Thanks and God bless!

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